How long did you wait to tell you boss/work?

cj1202

I'm 21 weeks and STILL havent told my boss. A few coworkers know. But is it weird... I'm scared to tell her!? I KNOW she'll be understanding ( as she was/is a single mom of 2 teenage boys now)--- but I feel like I'll be letting her down, because the little one is coming during our busiest time, and I'm def going to be missing a conference, that I pretty much run.... UGH.

I feel like if I started to show more, I would feel motivated to tell her... but I can still hide the weight and my tiny bump pretty well. No excuse , I know

 I know I have to tell her sooner, rather than later so they can figure out who will take on my conference... but I'm just scared. Also - my FMLA doesn't kick in till April and the babe is due in May. Does anyone know how I go about that process...just go to HR? Or the hospital?

How did you tell your boss? Or HR? Keep in mind... I'm not married or engaged...even though my boss isn't, my office is VERY judgemental and catty.