So I sent in the money and contract last week. I told STBX today that I had hired a lawyer and the paperwork is underway. Here is how the conversation went
STBX: "I thought we were going to share a lawyer"
Me: "My lawyer doesn't want to do th. Too much conflict of interest especially with Alex."
STBX: "So how bad are you going to screw me?"
Me: "Most of it is what we agreed to already. The only differences will be regarding Alex"
Great guy, huh? He is upset about me getting a lawyer and yet he is already dating the OW. I guess in his mind he is allowed to sneak around and break promises, but I'm not. Well too bad, I don't care what he thinks anymore.