Question on telling waiting to adopt

KKDRAGONFLY

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Hi, I hope it is OK to post here. I am not waiting to adopt but I have a good friend who is waiting to adopt a girl from China. They have been waiting a while.  I hope you can give me some advice.

I am pregnant and planning on announcing my pregnancy this week. I dealt with 2 years of IF and know from that experience hearing other people news can sting.  For that reason friends of mine who have IF I will reach out to personally with my news.  I'm wondering if I should do the same for my waiting to adopt friend.  (Short backstory I don't know if she struggled with IF, she is super private on these matters). I know it is hard for her waiting and wondering when/if her little girl is coming.  

I don't want my news to cause anyone pain.  Should i send her a personal note or not? if it would be weird or hurt her worse I wont. 

 Thanks for the guidance.