I have no problem with men being at the baby shower, it just gets to me that they just come because there is free food...does anyone else have this problem? I mean my family goes out on a limb to provide a nice baby shower for me and the in-laws want to bring everyone and their mom for a free meal. I simply talked to DTB and told him that this was not a family reunion for greedy folks. What would you do? Shower is not until June, due to me on bed rest, will probably be moved up. Any advice will help.