We're officially moving forward with our DIA. I love our agency and I feel so much safer doing it this way. We learned that the foster requirement, although removed by the court, is still sometimes required and it's on a case by case basis. My husband's family member that adopted a little girl (they live in the country) had her removed from the home the day I made my first post (they had her for 16 months). Family members who had never met her decided they wanted to parent. We already lost a child, I can't put myself through that again.
We hope to get our application in to the agency next week and get a few grant applications out the door soon!