Hi.
I am almost 38, and I found out I was pregnant with #3. I have a 4yo
and 2yo. My husband never wanted kids, but b/c he loved me, he agreed
to our 2 planned pregnancies. He has had a rough time with
things(demands of raising kids) since #2 arrived, and he ended up filing
for divorce in Feb. When he told me about the divorce, I was
devastated that night, and I forgot to take my BCP. He realized a week
later, that it would be horrible to live apart and break up our family,
so he decided not to go through with the divorce. Now, a few weeks
later, I find out I am pregnant. He does not want the baby. He says it
is over if I go through with the pregnancy. I don't want my kids to
grow up w/o a father, but I never thought I could end a pregnancy. I am
such a mess right now. I am 7weeks pregnant. I feel it is unfair and selfish of me to ask him to be a father to a 3rd child. If a man files for divorce and then changes his mind, do you think he will eventually leave anyways a few years down the road? If I knew he wouldn't stick around even with just the 2 kids, then I would go through with having a 3rd.