Foregoing preschool one more year?

QuigleyCat1

A while back I posted some questions regarding preschool for DS.  You all had great advice and for that I thank you again! Now we're in a bit of a dilema.  DS will turn 4 on August 23rd. (Meaning that the following year he'll be 5 and an extremely young kindergartener!)  We are leaning toward waiting until he is barely 6 to put him in kindergarten.  Many people we've talked to including friends, family and teachers have said that waiting an extra year for boys is a good idea anyway.  I of course know that it is our decision and depends on DS as well.  The dilema is this...he's 3 1/2 right now and still not near being potty trained.  He will sit on the potty when asked, but if left up to him, he'll just pee and/or poo in his pants.  So of course, he MAY just turn on a switch and "get it" anytime now, but preschool registration is NOW.  He needs to be trained in order to go to preschool.  I've been told that "technically" he doesn't NEED to be, but that if they have constant accidents that a parent has to come to the school/church to change him.  That is definitely not something that either myself or DH would be able to do!  I really wanted to enroll him this coming fall and then if we decided that he'd need an extra year instead of kindergarten that we'd be fine with that.  But without being trained, it looks like we're going to have to forego preschool this fall.    Anyone else in the same boat?  I was fine with 2 years of preschool before kindergarten, but if he can't even attend preschool this year....well now I really feel like we're "holding" him back. And with #2 due in October, I was looking forward to at least a couple of days of preschool for DS to also give our moms a break since they are our babysitters during the week. TIA for any stories or advice!