No compassion..Need your opinion

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Okay so lately as far as work goes, I've had some concerns about how my boss doesn't show any compassion to my current situation. (Being pregnant) First of all, I am babysitter/nanny that has been with this family for about 4 years. I take good care of them...never have I called in sick once. I constantly am told what a great job I do and how they couldn't live without me because of how hard I work. I also do the laundry, dishes, errands, take their vehicles in for service...etc etc. Everything.

So ever since being pregnant I feel like the family lacks the kind of care I would expect in return.. for example.. There was one point that I was having a rough week with m/s and really didn't think I'd be able to take the kids to a function they had planned for that Friday so I asked my boss..."hey I am not feeling too well if I don't feel well on Friday to take the kids what am I supposed to do?" She replies with, "Well then that's not fair to my kids" I honestly feel like if I were to ever need a sick day, I wouldn't get it because they depend on me so much and they don't have a back up. So yesterday I show up for work and there are a bunch of painters painting in her house. Okay... last time I checked, pregnant women shouldn't really expose themselves to paint fumes. So I message her telling her I feel uncomfortable and I don't want to upset her but I would like to leave in a while if possible.. she told me I could leave then. I don't know if she was upset about it or not, haven't seen her yet. Anyway I guess my question is, I do such a great job taking care of her family and the minute I need a little bit of compassion, I don't feel like I get it. I guess it bothers me that she knew there would be painters there, had me come to work and didn't think twice about me being pregnant....or even warn me about it?  I constantly have to hear how she was superwoman during her pregnancy... She wants me to take the summer off because she doesn't think I will be able to take her kids to the beach, waterpark or wherever... I really didn't have a choice to work the summer or not. I just feel sometimes I give and give when I have never asked for anything. Now that I am pregnant, it would be nice if I had a little understanding about some things.

So there are several other issues that are part of this job such as the way she is as a person, the way she treats people, the way she speaks about others etc that bother me. I try to keep to myself but I am realizing more and more that its the kind of person she is and I don't want to really have her in my life anymore. My husband thinks its a job, I need to treat it as one, suck it up and deal. I make good money but at the same time I feel like i am more stressed about her than the money is even worth. Should I expect her to show she cares? Do any of your bosses show they care while you are pregnant? Sorry this is so long!