Mamas with older LOs

KrazyKat35

What do you do when your older child doesn't want to sleep? I have kinda hit a wall, a very solid brick wall. Cale will not sleep more then maybe four hours. He goes to bed at 9:00-9:30 and usually when Dh and I head to bed anywhere between 10-11 he is still up in and play in his room. I have tried sitting with him and cuddling with him to get him to go sleep, i have tried letting him play until he is tired, i have tried letting him read his books, not forcing a nap time if he doesn't want to in hope of him sleeping at night. I just don't know what to do anymore. What is making it even worse is since he started only eating Rasin Brand Cereal, or Chex. I can not get him to eat anything. I feel like i am doing something wrong but just don't know what to do anymore.

Have any of you been through this? What did you do?