How to tell an estranged parent?

amcongdon

My husband and I just found out we are expecting and were too excited to wait to tell our immediate families so we let them all know this weekend. The big problem is that my husband has been estranged from his father for almost a year now. Big nasty fight around Thanksgiving and there is no sign that anyone wants to talk. We asked my husband's sister to tell their father when we told her as they were together at that point and she did not feel comfortable doing so. Do I reach out to my step-mother in law and tell her? Do I just wait for them to find out through the grapevine? We aren't even sure if we want them involved in the baby's life at this point given his extremely hurtful comments about our family and general negative attitude. Any and all help is appreciated.