How to get a faster, less messy latch?

littleredfish

My LO had trouble latching because of sleepyness at first, but she got through that and has since latched great. NOW however, she has decided for the past few days she wants to play before she actually decides to latch. She'll open her mouth but only slightly, rub her head back and forth, latch on for a few seconds then spit everything out, wiggle her tongue around, everything except latch properly. Meanwhile I'm leaking like crazy and I have to change all the time because I soak through receiving blankets trying to keep myself clean but usually both her and I end up covered in bm!

Needless to say I am becoming a hermit because I dread having to feed her in public now! How can I get her to latch on faster? I have tried waiting until she is basically hysterical with hunger munching on her hands and fussing before I even attempt to feed her but still the same result. Help me! I am tired of smelling like spoiled milk. -_-