Begging you to reconsider

ldoo

So you mamas who have made the decision to leave:

Did your ex beg you to return? Promise he's a changed man and will love you like you want to be loved...support you...basically promise you the moon?

I hear this is actually the 3rd step in the grief process and that a lot of men do it when faced with divorce.

It breaks my heart knowing I'm breaking his, but the thought of going back with him fills me with dread and panic. And as much as I hate the consequences of divorce (less time with my girls; big changes for them; financial), I'm still very strong in my decision to end the marriage. I don't see how on earth we can magically become the couple we never were for our 12-year relationship. But it's like I'm the evil bad person for giving up.

How did you deal with this, and what did you say to your ex without it continuing to sound cruel??