***Snow__White__Queen*** - AOP Advice

FyreFlyeRush

Didn't want to hijack that post anymore than necessary, but wantd others to see this.

I recommend against signing an AOP unless you're still together. If you sign it, you and the father have the same rights. That means he can take the baby and the police can't do anything about it. Also, if he fights for custody, he will have equal rights to it. If you don't fill out the paperwork, you have sole custody from birth. Your rights typically, but not always, superceed his.

Once you go to court and have paternity established that way, he can wave the DNA test, you can request the baby have his last name.

This is a personal decision, but...the court pressured me into giving DD her father's last name. He didn't have anything to do with her until she was 12. I regretted that choice and I won't be doing it again. I know a lot of other women on this board have given their babies their last name.