Need's some serious advice.

aaahashley

I'm hoping this is the right board, and maybe some of you ladies can offer some advice from experience. My daughters father and I were never married, but had been together for over 3 years. I left him about the middle of January, and things have been pretty ugly. He is so emotionally abusive, its scary. I won't write out everything, but just know that I was locked in bedrooms, told to "obey", called lazy, worthless, a bad mother, etc. This is few among many. To fast forward, he's now on this crazy stint where he's trying to get full custody of her. Here are some details

 

-he lives over an hour away in another county.

-i have an order of protection against him, which he has violated and police reports have been filed

-he has admitted in writing to "losing complete control and trying to hit me". also, "not being able to take care of her, and being mentally unstable"

-he rented out the two bedrooms of his home to complete strangers he met on CL, telling them they could "do whatever they want, as long as it does no damage to their rooms." He wants our daughter to come live with him in a home with total and complete strangers from the internet. um, no.

-he has admitted to wanting to kill himself numerous times and having a sex addiction.

-I have been her sole caregiver from day 1, he has worked 2 jobs and was barely home. 

The thing is, he has now filed for custody on the claims that I have abused our daughter, am mentally unstable, have no job, no income, etc.

 

keep in mind, I was a SAHM for 2 years, and just now am on my own for the first time since she was born. I have actually just secured a job (thank God!) and I'm working towards bettering myself. I DO NOT abuse our daughter, have never hit her, yelled at her, or anything else he claims.

 

She is 17 months old and he wants her for over nights. When we left he took apart her entire room and put everything outside, completely displacing both her and I. I am just worried about his complete lies of child abuse.

 

Has anyone dealt with this? I really need a lawyer, but I cannot afford one and the pro bonos in the county aren't taking any new cases.

 

Any help or advice on if he will get her?