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What to/What not to say and do...

CaroleeCarolee mod
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I was hoping to get a list of ideas and make it sticky (if I can figure out how) so that people who are looking for advice can just look at the list.  We've had people ask a few times.

So, what are your ideas?

For me, the worst things people can say are:

You're so strong (Like I really have a choice)

Everything happens for a reason/It was God's plan.  (So God wanted my baby to die??)

You'll have to get over it eventually.  (No, I will NEVER get over the loss of my baby)

The best things people did/said:

As much as it hurt/still hurts, I love to talk about my son!  I love it when people say his name, and ask me about him.

People sent meals for about a month or so after Eliott died.  It was nice to not have to worry about cooking.

I loved it when people sent cards, especially after the first few weeks.  I remember being really upset when the cards stopped coming.

Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12

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