STBXH caved and told me who my "stalkers" on TB/TN were. And one of them is married to a guy who I know has verbalized the desire to cheat on his wife because he's miserable in his marriage. He said he'd rather cheat on his wife than get a divorce because she's a paralegal and could "take him for all he's worth".
Judgy McJudgerson's should be careful who they're judging. You could be one of us.