Getting DH to connect w/ the LO

AndieD6709

For those second time mommies, or really for anyone who has advice.

I'm just wondering what kinds of things you can do to get your DH involved with the LOs? I just feel like we get to experience all the really cool stuff, you know? We get to feel the babies moving, and all the neat stuff along with it.

I've tried letting him feel whenever one of the girls is kicking, but he'll usually just hold his hand there for a kick and then pull it away. I've had him rub cocoa butter on the bump, and usually the girls go crazy after that too. But it just seems like he's not quite as connected to them. :S

I've often been told that girls become mothers as soon as they find out they're pregnant; men become fathers after the babies born. Do you think that's true?