Question that someone may be able to answer...

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Just got an e-mail from my attorney that he, my STBXH and his attorney and me may have a 4 way meeting.  But, STBXH is not amenable to meeting unless overnights will be a possibility.  My attorney put in parenthesis that a court would grant him this anyway.  Is that true?  We live in NJ and my LO is 1 year and still breastfeeding.  Anyone go through the same thing?  Did you have more luck holding your ground and taking your chances in mediation or court?