http://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504122
I've only read the blurb and one or two Amazon reviews. I'd be interested to hear from someone who's read it.
I got a FB message from a family member who thought I "might be interested." I confess my initial reaction is a defensive one. But this person lives in another town and has observed less than 5 hours of my parenting over the last 3 years, so I can't imagine them having thoughts about it one way or the other. Odd.