I'm still shaking my head over this one (vent)

msualum96

Hello, I am mostly a lurker, because since LO was about 3 weeks old, SO and I have had off & on issues with our relationship.  Suffice it to say, SO and I are NOT going to make it as a couple, I finally realize this as a certainty. 

He said to me tonight, "I think I know what did us in" and gestures toward LO.  Um, what?  He goes on to say, "Everything we do revolves around him."  Um, WHAT?  I had absolutely NO response. Speechless.   Because anything I would have said would have been met with an equally ridiculous response on his part.  

His apparent apathy for *our* role as parents has DEFINITELY changed our relationship, and I see no solution.  This is a person who has no job, yet wants to keep LO in daycare 3 days a week (he takes him all day Monday and I have Fridays off) so he can do what he wants to do w/o the responsibility of caring for our child.  I work full time, and YES, I want to spend as much time as possible with my LO when I'm not working.  But that doesn't mean I don't want to spend time w/ SO; I'd love to do things as a FAMILY.  But he wants to leave LO w/ his Mom & go to the casino.  I could go on & on, but the bottom line is that he & I have VERY different definitions of what parenting means.  I just don't think that he "gets it", so to speak. 

Sorry this is long, I just had to vent a little.  Thank you ladies for being available to give support/advice!  It is much appreciated!