Those with addicted SO/H's

PoundCake

How did you get past the "what if's".  That's where I'm having problems.  I can't get to alanon too often, basically rarely.

I'm going through the grieving stage, but I find myself feeling guilty for taking a tough stance as far as ok I did this and now we are done unless it concerns the kids. (Which I said today.)

I think to myself "what if something happens" and the last thing was that we aren't going to speak anymore.  I left you alone.  I know he probably isn't having that problem.  I just feel like I'd be guilty if something happened to him and we were angry and things were unsettled.

 How did you recify those feelings?